March 2018 Lesson Three
Have you struggled with the challenges of life only to be left tired and hopeless?
Do you cringe at the suggestion that you can change your life?
Dr. Carol S. Dweck was amazed at some four years old that she observed very early in her career
Clearly, there were at least two ways of dealing with life going on with these children. What was it? Over the years of her research, she has come to identify what she observed as expressions of Mindset. Additionally, she contends that mindset plays a significant role in our lives, especially as it relates to what helps us succeed.
The hallmark of a fixed mindset is that when there is even a hint of “failure,” they blame, make excuses, discount or attack any suggestions to improve. They are angered and embarrassed to be seen as unable to do a task. They have to live up to an internal sense that they already know everything, they are innately superior. Fixed mindset despises effort, “You ought to have success effortlessly. Otherwise, you are and will always be less than a success.” This attitude may come from feeling deeply inadequate or from feelings of being untouchable and superior. This sense of self releases one from the task of trying to prove or improve her/himself. It also leaves no room for building skills to solve problems.
Growth mindset is excited to create the actions to learn more, especially as it relates to what they love. They expect works needed to reach mastery. The growth mindset allows people to love what they're doing or to do what they love, just because.
They understand that going into areas they have never been, making mistakes to learn is the basis of life. Growth mindset individuals, free of the task to continually prove their brilliance, are free to go for the things they deeply value and love. They know that any one can succeed if they are willing to put in the time to learn and apply
A person with a growth mindset is excited to create the actions to expand their world and experience more. They expect to work to reach mastery.
IQ tests, as we think of them today, are part of the problem. We have come to consider an IQ test as the determining factor to a person’s intellectual ability, now and forever. Alfred Binet, a French psychologist, created the IQ in 1905. It was to test the educational system. The test was developed to show how well a systems methods was do in teaching reaching and inspiring the students. Binet knew that the mind was forever learning given the right environment. The IQ was to test the system, not the person.
Praise for things a child has no control over such as eye color, beauty, even innate gifts can also leads to a fixed mindset. "You are so pretty." "You are so smart." "You play the piano so beautifully."
These can be traps.
When you are praising another, look for the effort that individual has brought to the task. Praise the effort, something the child/adult did by choice. "I saw how much commitment it took for you to learn that piano piece so well." "I love the way you bring great colors together with your clothes." "I know you didn't let discouragement stop you kept falling at ice skating rink. Look at how well you skate now!"
Do fear and anger snap at your mind?
Are you apprehensive about imperfect actions?
This is the month to give yourself permission to make lots of mistakes.
Begin with Reality Statements:
Thanks for being on this journey!
Recommended reading: Mindset, the New Psychology of Success
by: Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D.
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Sharon Riegie Maynard
After Forty years of working within the worlds we call Spiritual and with Beings of the Highest Integrity, I am honored to share my path to spark and empower your own.